Details Condition: New Format: Paperback ISBN: 9781473673557 Publisher: Yellow Kite Age Range: Adult Overview The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity is Esther Perel's landmark exploration of one of the most painful yet universal experiences in modern relationships: the affair. Drawing on decades of clinical practice, Perel moves beyond simplistic notions of betrayal to ask why people cheat, what infidelity really means, and how couples can survive or transform after it happens. This paperback edition is essential reading for anyone touched by love, loss, or longing. About the Book Infidelity has existed for as long as marriage itself, yet Esther Perel argues that our understanding of it has failed to evolve alongside our shifting expectations of romantic partnership. In The State of Affairs, she challenges the binary of victim and villain, instead examining affairs as expressions of desire, self-discovery, and the human search for aliveness. Perel draws on years of therapeutic case studies, cultural commentary, and cross-cultural analysis to unpack why intelligent, loving people stray, and why the aftermath of an affair does not have to mean the end of a relationship. She explores the emotional aftershocks of betrayal, the difference between a slip, a crisis, and an affair, and how couples can rebuild trust, or use the crisis as a catalyst to redefine their relationship entirely. Compassionate rather than judgmental, Perel gives language to feelings that are often silenced by shame, offering readers new frameworks for understanding commitment, monogamy, and desire in the twenty-first century. Whether you are a partner who has strayed, someone who has been betrayed, a therapist, or simply a curious reader of relationship psychology, this book offers rare clarity on a subject usually clouded by moral judgement. It has become a touchstone text in contemporary relationship literature, cited widely in therapy circles and popular discourse alike. Offers a compassionate, non-judgemental framework for understanding infidelity Written by a globally respected psychotherapist with decades of clinical experience Useful for individuals, couples, and relationship professionals alike Blends real case studies with cultural and psychological analysis Helps readers move from blame towards understanding and possible repair A thoughtful gift for anyone navigating trust, betrayal, or relationship change About the Author Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author widely regarded as one of the most original voices on contemporary relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she runs a private practice in New York City, consults for organisations worldwide, and has delivered TED talks viewed more than 20 million times. Her earlier book, Mating in Captivity, is an international bestseller translated into 25 languages. Perel also hosts the acclaimed podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?, bringing real clinical insight to a wide public audience. Why You'll Love This Paperback Honest, nuanced, and free of judgement, this paperback offers clarity and comfort for anyone grappling with betrayal, desire, or the complexities of modern love and commitment. Please Note: Book cover shown may vary slightly from the UK edition supplied; ISBN and content remain as described.